3 ways to keep a long distance relationship alive
I was in a long distance relation my freshman year of college with my boyfriend, who was still in high school at the time. I was in Boston and he was in Los Angeles.
It was, to put it lightly, an absolute nightmare that ended in two broken hearts, many long nights, expensive plane tickets and we both will cheat.
Distance relationships can work, but they require respect, patience, and deliberate attention. You have to do everything possible to make your partner feel special every day, otherwise, you may fall into the dreaded “out of sight, out of mind” territory. It’s tough, but with the right person and the right tools, it’s worth it.
But what’s the secret to making a successful long distance relationship?
1. Speak verbally about when you will be together
“While you can’t be together right now, the key to any successful long-distance relationship is the trajectory,” Rogers said. “When will are you finally together? Where are you going to be when that moment arrives? What will it look like? Desire ? Be like?”
Although you do not need to name your children yet, you should point out that you both have a hard time crossing the distance for some reason: In the end, you will both have a real future together.
She continues, “Talk about it daily, if possible. The more connected your future is, the stronger your present will feel. “
So plan for the future, make decisions as a couple, and try to set long-term goals as a couple. That way, you stay relationship-minded despite the distance.
2. Show them virtual intimacy with a “thumbs up kiss”
Roger says: “There is an app called ‘Couple‘which aims to keep couples close while they are apart. “
The way to use the app is quite simple and, frankly, quite cute:
Download the app and you will be able to ‘thumb kiss’ which means you place both your thumbs on the screen and the other will see it. When they touch, your phone vibrates.
“Cheesy? Yes. But it will make you feel closer! Rogers continues.
Can I have this app with my dog? Imagine if my dog could put his paw in front of the screen and we could kiss! Oh my God!
Sorry, I digress. But obviously, when you’re in a long-distance relationship, you lose the little forms of intimacy, like hugging, holding hands, and kissing.
By downloading Couple, you will be able to show your partner that you love them all day long. It’s a pretty surprise that is sure to make you both smile.
3. Video chat while doing something mundane
Part of being in a relationship is getting used to doing normal, everyday things with each other. For example, he starts to see you with your face mask on or he starts to pee with the door open.
Real-life things make you feel close to each other, and when you’re at a long distance you lose those special little glimpses into your partner’s life.
To counter this, Rogers says, “Watch while the two of you do your housework. One can cook in his kitchen while the other does laundry in his living room.
While it’s not the most “romantic” thing, Rogers says it can make the struggle to be apart easier.
So, FaceTime your guy while you walk the dog. It is an endearing reminder of your everyday life together.
Bonus: Take the time to keep things sexy
O-Cast is an application that allows you to receive oral sex … through your phone. Basically your partner licks their phone screen and the movement is recorded on their phone as a vibration pattern.
Then your partner can send you their separate cunnilingus movement via SMS, which will be picked up by the Lovense “Lush” vibrator via bluetooth. You can then feel the sensation of your partner’s oral sex through the vibrator, without them actually being there.
Technology, right? How did long distance relationships survive without it?
Do you have any tips for surviving in a long-distance relationship? Let me know in the comments.